I've been thinking about relationships lately. (run, run away NOW!! Escape while you still can!!!)

    Now before I begin my rant, I must make it clear that I am talking about girlfriend-boyfriend relationships. Alright, now, I've always thought relationships were stupid, they wreck every good movie/show/book and in real life they cause all sorts of emotional mess. This is what I really want to talk about now, the emotional wreckage they leave behind, now, me- myself, never having embarked along the relationship path, may be slightly uninformed; HOWEVER! I have a fair amount of friends who are stupid and have fallen into this cesspool of festering emotions, and have seen a lot of ruined movies/shows/books centering around relationships, so I think I'm a little knowledgeable on the subject……..in the same sense that a gamer whose played flight simulator thinks that he can actually have something useful to say to a pilot.

    So first of all you have the two people who are in love, now, there's nothing wrong with that, if it makes those 2 people happy, then good for them.. BUT! What about all the people associated with those people? Say the people in question are person A and person B.. no wait, I want better variables, Person X and Person θ (there, much more……. Mathy) alright, so anyone whose a friend to person X gets thoroughly ignored because of X's involvement with θ, also, anyone who may have liked X now feels like crap and will always feel uncomfortable around them, now that X is in a relationship (all this applies to both parties [X and θ]) also, I don't know about you, but if you're just alone with 2 people in a relationship, its really, really uncomfortable, like, they're doing weird relationship-y things and… yea, its just awkward. Then, there's the people who aren't in a relationship, but want to be, every time they see 2 people together, they will feel as if their inequities relating to intrapersonal skills are being amplified, it must be very depressing for them.

    Alright, so now we explored the effects on others, what about X and θ? And their actual relationship? What's in a relationship? This is something I've thought about extensively. Now, although it seems like a simple question, I want all of you who are in a relationship to think about it right now as I speak. Why do you like the person you are with? Is it because of the way they look? Well of course not, that would be superficial ......... that’s the correct answer. Very good ^^ you get 5 points. BUT what's your reason for liking them? Well, their personality of course. but what's in a personality? Is it the way they think, their views on things, their temperament, their demeanor…. But wait… aren't all these things just as superficial and temporary as appearance? Views and ideas can change with the drop of a hat, a more convincing argument on any view can make someone do a total 180, temperament demeanor are mainly based on diet, and I don’t really know what 'the way they think' even means? The way they handle certain situations? Is it their problem solving skills? Well that’s pretty lame, 'oh baby, you're problem solving skills totally turn me on.' Wow. That’s almost as sad as going on a date and studying. Math.

    So really, what you like about them, their personality, is even more temperamental than appearance, I mean think about it; people can fake personalities, you can't do that with looks…. Well, not as easily. And people can change over night on you, that only happens with appearance if you have plastic surgery. And just like appearance ones mind degrades with age and fluctuates depending on ones diet and level of exercise. So what. So what if their brain turns to mush after 10 years, if I'm in a purely appearance based relationship that might mean I can't even stand the personality of my partner! This is true, and it's also been argued that if someone has a really great personality they begin to look more beautiful to the viewer. I believe that, like most people, if you enjoy someone's company you overlook many of their flaws and only see the beauty, however this is applicable to all relationships, meaning, friendships, acquaintances etc. in any case, this is a little off topic. Lets get back to the subject.

    What's left in your relationship? What's the point in having one special friend that you waste all your time on? Why can't simple friendships suffice? well it's a different kind of friendship why? Why do you need a different kind of friendship? if you have a good, supportive group of friends that you really trust you don't need a partner.

    Which brings me to my next point, I believe that people use relationships as crutches, whenever anyone feels inadequate, crappy or whatever, they just seem to latch onto someone else to give themselves some superficial worth. well I'm not totally worthless, I have someone who loves me Which is pathetic, I mean honestly, its almost like a drug, these people are trying to compensate for their failures by propping themselves up against another person. I suck at math, so I'm going to forget my problems by making out with my girlfriend! Isn’t that awfully similar to the stupid pot-heads? I suck at math so I'm going to drown my problems in weed. I don't know. It all just seems sort of pathetic to me. Honestly, you have to accept failure, deal with your problems, maybe work through them with someone else, and ultimately, get over it. Distracting yourself never works, it only compounds your issues and makes you feel even more incompetent because you can't even bother to solve your own problems, and it only intensifies from there. Now, I'm going to take a step back from what I'm saying and just tell everyone the I don't believe that all people in relationships are depressing emo/goth kids. Nor do I have my masters in psychology, so remember to take everything I say with a grain of sand; and always remember these are only the paltry musings of a high school student. But then, maybe that’s the sole point of relation ships.. to act as a clean crutch for people who are feeling like crap….? Is that their point? A friend whose obligated to help you no matter what? Sort of like an unpaid psychiatrist whose supposed to actually care about you forever. Sounds kinda… constricting.. that doesn’t really sound like love… but really, what is love? What is a relationship… What's in a relationship?....... do you know?

in any case I really should be doing homework right now. :P Ja mata